- Went to the Ballet - Not normally my thing- but it was something on the bucket list I could reasonably do so I stepped outside of my normal art entertainment. I don't think I'll go again. Part of what Autism looks like in me, is needing the verbal context clues to understand what's going on, as a result I found myself enjoying the costumes and set design more than the show itself and given how expensive it is to attend the Ballet, I think I'll stick to things that don't drain my battery.
- Went to Orchestra Hall for the last of my Pop season tickets: "She's Got Soul". I’ve loved having season tickets but I Probably wont have season tickets next year. Have to think about where to save and where to spend, and there are vacations I'd like to take that I could use the season ticket money for. Ex and I did 2 shows together this year, did 1 with my dad and 1 with a friend. I would have to do it by myself next year and I just can't bring myself to do that.
- Prom! I have attended 5 of 7 years of proms since I started this job, the only 2 years I missed were due to covid. I love a good excuse to get dressed up and as my own senior prom left a lot to be desired it's fun to get a re-do every year. Ours was at The Museum of Pop Culture which provides so many fun things to do in addition to typical "prom" activities like dancing and photo booths. Normally the entire special ed team chaperones, but this year I was the only one. Felt a little sad about that, but it did not stop me from enjoying the evening- I especially enjoyed the way my neon glasses looked under the lights.
- Graduation and Grad Night- In trying to hide from my feelings this time of year, I volunteered to chaperone grad night - a Lock in from 9pm until 6am the next day.
- I've always done graduation- I have a "not so secret" way to help students who struggle with over-stimulation, noise, etc to be able to participate in their high school graduation that I've done every year we've had traditional graduation and I cannot imagine not doing it. I get a shorter sweeter version of the event- I stay in the tunnels and avoid a lot of the noise myself.
- Grad Night is new...And I'm not sure if I'd do it again. I did 25,000 steps in 24 hours. The photos are from the start and end of the night. Due to Work and graduation I was AWAKE for 24 hours and I thought I could go to work the next day--I could not. Every muscle in my body hurts and I have no voice at all, not even a whisper. When I tried to talk I couldn't breath. So yeah- Interesting, Fun, but too much to take on in one day. Also not sensory friendly at all. Bright flashing lights and loud music everywhere, no space for me or my students to get chill time, leaving us all in near panic attacks by the end due to sensory overload.
- Continued dental work - Finished the crown - this process went way more smoothly then I expected. I also replaced a few really old fillings at the front of my smile- which I know will help with my confidence.
- Did another paint night-was suppose to go with a friend. Glad I went even though she couldn't. Turns out my instructor and I have people in common so it was a fund even and I wasn't really by myself. I'm pretty proud of my art too and look forward to taking another class with her again.
- Finished another school year. Year 11 in the books. This year was rough, but I am so thankful for the people who helped me through and frankly I'm proud of myself for not giving up. Lots of changes for next year; most of which I'm very excited about. Packed my classroom to move spaces- looking forward to being in a single room all day next year. (Same school no worries)
- I survived my first wedding anniversary alone. I use the term survived loosely, as in I am still here, and I only spent a few hours crying, but that's a place to start.
- I tried a dinner with Time Left as a means of trying to meet potential friends. The app itself had several glitches day of which was annoying. Dinner was interesting- 1 person left within 10 minutes leaving 4 women and 1 guy. 2 of the women were very loud I found myself very overwhelmed. But there was one woman who works and lives close to me that I exchanged information with. I'd try it again as the restaurant was good and I do need to meet more people. We had dinner at Single Shot I had the asparagus with crab.
- Last Musical of the Season- Girl From The North Country. Bob Dylan music about a part of the world near and dear to my heart--Duluth, MN. Unfortunately while the cast was very talented, the notes of suicide, caregiver abuse of a disabled child, racism and poking fun at mental health - all of which were common place during the 1930's in Duluth, doesn't mean I find it entertaining. Additionally the storyline was weak and it felt like the music was added to sell tickets rather than with intention from the start. So while yes the music was fantastic and I understand why it won a Tony for orchestration, it just didn't hit with me as an entire package.
What originally started as a travel blog has morphed into a medium for sharing about daily life at home. Life's an adventure, even if you never leave the country, and this is my journey.
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Wednesday, June 26, 2024
June Update
Saturday, June 22, 2024
Questions I ask myself
- Did he know at our last wedding anniversary that we wouldn't make it to our next one?
- How do I learn to trust again when my life has been a lie for so long?
- When will I stop hating myself for failing as a wife?
- When will I stop hating him for failing as my husband?
- When will I realize all the lies I've told myself?
- What does moving on feel like? and When do I know I'm ready?
- Will I magically feel better once the papers are finalized? Will I feel worse?
- How do I let go of the pain?
- Why do I feel like I need permission to be sad?
- Why am I afraid of crying?
- What if I never find love again?
- What if I'm not lovable?
- Who am I now?
- Who do I want to be now?
- Why is it so hard to ask for help?
- Do the waves of pain ever stop coming in? Or do they just get smaller? More infrequent?
- Why did we give up on each other? Why was it so easy for us to do that?
Friday, June 21, 2024
Setting up the school year
When most teachers think about setting up the school year they may think of prepping curriculum, getting their classrooms ready, stuff related to work.
I on the other hand think about how I'm managing my stress and working to stay sane. For the first time in 6 years I am not department chair. I'm excited to not have to manage people or frankly and more importantly expectations people have of me. For the first time in 4 years I'm not a union rep. Looking forward to not knowing all the drama. I am not actively going through a divorce this year though I am learning to create this new life for my single self and that is it's own fear.
Having things to look forward to each month is a part of my balance. So I booked out my Theatre Group shows for the year.
August Peter Pan
October- Black Violin
November- Wicked
January- Stomp
February- Hamilton
March- Dance Theatre of Harlem
April- Life of Pi
May- Seattle Rock Orchestra plays the Beatles
I like to have 1 arts event a month during the school year so I'll be on the look out for concerts or other events specifically for September, December and June.
I also enjoy cooking classes and paint nights and would like to get back into taking dance classes and maybe even skating as I fell out of both of those the more chaotic my life got over the last few year.
Friday, June 14, 2024
A day I can't forget
Monday is my wedding anniversary. It would have been 7 years today. I've been dreading today for the last few weeks. On several occasions I have had several full blown panic attacks thinking about today. Cried more tears than I have in a while and feels like in elephant has been on my chest for at least the last 10 days. I intentionally filled my calendar the last week of school to stop or try to stop fixating on it.
This year it happens to be the last full day of school. Every year it will be my grandfather's birthday. Every 7 years or so it will be fathers day. I picked this day to honor people who helped me get where I was at that point. Now I just hope at some point it stops causing me pain.
I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought about anniversary gifts. I didn't actually buy anything though I will absolutely get myself a cocktail tonight, but I had gotten a cute dish towel a year or 2 ago that was all of the anniversaries. The 7th anniversary is Copper. So maybe a Moscow Mule to drink today, maybe not.
I drive around the 1st anniversary gift we essentially got for each other. We bought the Subaru on June 18th 2018. I am thankful for this car and the ability it gives me to start over, even if a part of it will always be attached to a day I'd just as soon forget.
Sunday, June 9, 2024
I want
I want to not be sad.
But most mornings I wake up sad. Many nights I go to be sad. I try to keep my days distracted. But it doesn't mean the sadness goes away. It's simply muted for awhile.
I had an idealistic thought that 6 months on it wouldn't still feel like such a fresh sting. I know how painful divorce is. I watched my parents go through it. But I hoped I would be different. But it's not. The "Small" things feel like pin pricks that never heal. The "big" things feel like an elephant on my chest.
I changed my status to separated this week. Because looking at "married to" was too triggering, but publicly sharing that I'm not is it's own pain. It's it's own realization. It's its own dragon to slay.
I want to not cry so often. Literally anything can trigger tears. Everything can remind me of him, or of our years together. Doesn't seems to matter if it's good or not so good memories, it all leads to crying.
I want to not be sad. I want to not be held hostage by my emotions. I want to not be sad.
Friday, June 7, 2024
The weird things
This shouldn't matter. I shouldn't care, but I got kicked off the netflix today. I mean it's fair, I'm certainly not "wife" any more, but also I still pay for health care, which is way more than netflix, so I feel like maybe I should still have access to the netflix account.
It shouldn't bother me, but it does.
Wednesday, June 5, 2024
Playlist
Part of my Bucket list was to create a play list-
If you are in a health relationship and want to stay in one- this is probably NOT the list for you. But to everyone else- here is what I will kick off the road trip with this summer- in no particular order.
- We Didn't start the Fire- Fall out boy
- Don't Put Dirt on my Grave Just Yet- Nashville Cast
- Ain't That Some- Morgan Wallen
- Blue Sky-Allison Eide
- Good Grief- Dessa
- God's Hotel-Peytan Porter
- Dutch- Dessa
- Vlodrome- Dessa
- White Flag- Bishop Briggs
- My Boy Only Breaks his Favorite Toys- Taylor Swift
- Pony- Ginuwine
- I Hope- Gabby Barret
- NYC Bitche$- Awkwafina
- Boy Crazy- Dessa
- LOMI- Taylor Swift
- Who's Afraid of Little Old Me?- Taylor Swift
- Pyro- Shinedown
- Liszten Up- Levi.Sct
- Rome- Dessa
- A Little Lime- Jordan Davis
- Baby Yetu- Christopher Tin
- Don't Cry for Your Daughters Eve- Lydia the Bard
- Black Roses- Nashville Cast
- March March- The Chicks
- The Tortured Poet's Department- Taylor Swift
- Formation- Beyonce
- Tourniquet- Evanescence
- Here (2:00 AM Verion)- Alessia Cara
- One Time- Marian Hill
- Blush- Dessa
- Long Time Coming- Caitlyn Smith
- The Smallest Man Who Ever Lived- Taylor Swift
- Go Crazy- Leslie Odom Jr.
- Devil's Spoke- Laura Marling
- Hallowed Ground- Bishop Briggs
- Dream is Collapsing- Hans Zimmer
- Project- Chase McDaniel
- So Long, London- Taylor Swift
- Wrong Side of Myself- Ashe
- Labour- Paris Paloma
- First Burn- Hamilton
- Kill Your Conscience- Shinedown
- No Scrubs- TLC
- Problem- Ariana Grande
- Long Time Coming- Caitlyn Smith
- Take me to Church- Hozier
- The Good Girls- Amy Rigby
- The Human Radio- Shine down
- Wonder- Emeli Sande
- Exile- Taylor Swift
- I Already Like you- Dessa
- Guilty as Sin? - Taylor Swift
- Stressed out- Twentyone pilots
- Good News- Ocean City Standoff
- Sober- Pink
- You can do it- Ice Cube
- Let her go- Passenger
- We are Warriors- Avril Lavigne
- Kings and Queens- Mat Kearney
- Love Somebody- Lauv
- Underdog- Alicia Keys
- Damn You for Breaking my heart- Caitlyn Smith
- DEVIL- Shinedown
- BURN- Music Lab Collective
- Fortnight- Taylor Swift
- Call me When you're sober- Evanescence
- Better Liar- Julia Cole
- My ex's best friend- Machine Gun Kelly
- The Bullpen- Dessa
- Falling Alseep at the Wheel- Holly Humberstone
- What if I'm not Ready- Dessa
- Lithium- Evanescence
- The Bones- Maren Morris
- Praying- Dessa
- Save Myself- Ashe
- High Water- Bishop Briggs
- Blue Skies- Ella Fitzgerald
- Cherry on Top- Bishop briggs
- Illicit Affairs- Taylor Swift
- There's No way- Lauv
- Death of me- Red
- Not Afraid- Eminem
- Southern Hospitality- Disciple
- Love Who I am- Allison Eide
- Alive- Daughtry
- You Are- Allison Eide
- Rossiney- Levi.Sct
- Church Bells- Carrier Underwoods
- Body Like a backroad- Sam Hunt
- Waloyo Yamoni- Christopher Tin
- Say a Prayer- Tyler Bryant & The Shakedown
- Trouble Is- Nashville Cast
- Good Grief- Dessa
- It's Quiet Uptown- The Hamilton Mixtape
- Box Full of Letters- Wilco
- Fire Drills- Dessa
- Everything Floats- Dessa
- Planet Zero- Shinedown
- Willow- Taylor Swift
- I Choose Me- Samantha Leah